Comments on: How To Ask A Doctor Out

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 19:38:36 +0000

I’d love to meet a doctor! I like to think that he’d be very interesting.

By: Student dating a doc.

Student dating a doc. — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 05:19:22 +0000

I’ve been dating a doctor for the past 3 months. At first I was intimidated because of his profession and the fact that he is 12 years older. When I first met him I was only an intern at his hospital. Before I dated him I was afraid to talk to doctors because of the idea that they are so “important” and was afraid of being laughed at for saying something stupid. However, he was the first to approach me and to show interest. The more time I spend with him the more I realize that being a doctor is just a day job. It definitely does not make the person. No matter how hard of a day he has he always makes time to spend with me or talk to me over the phone. He does what he can to be there for me and to support me with my studies. I believe that if a person truly does care for you, then he/she will do everything is their power to make it work. I recently met his family and I am very excited about the future. Even if he was a school teacher (not that there’s anything wrong with it- I’m a social worker student) I would still be dating him. The profession does not make the person.

By: Lucelle Bowl

Lucelle Bowl — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 19:52:07 +0000

I believe it is a different ball game when dating a dr. I dated a med student who was still in the process of finding where he was doing his residency. I didn’t look at him as a dr.even though he did remind me though. I knew him before he even went to med school and we were reacquainted after. I thought we fell in love, but he never wanted to commit knowing he couldn’t promise me a relationship that I deserve. And I understood his time would be occupied and he may want to date inter hospital staff for convenience. We had to let each other go regardless of what we wanted. If he were not a dr. , perhaps we would be together today. I was understanding at first and then doubt of his honesty and resentment stormed in in order for me to get over him. I miss him even today. I wish it didn’t have to be this way and I pray for the day he realizes Im the only girl for him, regardless of my degree. I loved/love him like no other. We didn’t even talk a lot of the time we just held each other and had fun that said to me, we just enjoyed each others presence. He is my soulmate and I would deal with the cons to be with him any day, because I understand them.

By: Shelly

Shelly — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 08:23:32 +0000

Doc Gurley (and other readers who might want to weigh in),

I started seeing a specialist for severe chronic pain about a year ago when my condition was so severe I was certain I was going to die. He was recommended by a friend of a friend. Although I have never been fond of doctors, I immediately liked him very much. Since then, with his help, I am almost completely recovered. I do not like him because he is a doctor, I like him because he is a wonderful human being. Were he a million dollars in debt, I would not care. I like him because he always does the right thing, he cares about the environment, he’s brilliant, good humored, and we finish each other’s sentences. I think had I met him anywhere else we probably would have started dating immediately, but I’ve not asked him out because until recently I needed him to be my doctor so much more desperately than I needed him to be my boyfriend. That is changing lately, and I do not think I will need him to be my specialist much longer. I am not sure the laws about specialists dating their patients in Wisconsin. Where can I find this? I’d ask if I should approach him about it or not, but if the law would permit him to see me, I would have no insecurities about my ability to approach him about it, and his ability to deal with it.

By: raya

raya — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:32:11 +0000

i happen to think this specialist i have to see rarely is so attractive are we not allowed to date since i’m a patient??

By: jasmine

jasmine — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 04:52:36 +0000

I date a doctor (he is anesthesia)for one year now. I don’t know if I want to break up with him or not. I am just feeling sorry for him because he is working weird hours. He has no time for us or sometimes says call but never did until next day. He makes me feel confused and disappointed. He always said to me that he loves me and never makes time. I think dating a doctor is hard because he/she has no time, busy schedule, and in his/her own world. I also believed in dating doctor, dentist, nurse, or anyone, if both willing to make an effort or time to be together, then the relationship will be perfect. So I will try to be understanding, loving, caring, and patient.

By: kirst

kirst — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 22:14:03 +0000

I was married to a Doctor for seven years(separated for 5). He came from a family of Doctors also. My medical knowledge was from spending a number of years doing Ambo work, aside from that and a passion for medical knowledge I obviously wasn’t a Doctor.
Take away the label Doctor, they are still human, still have the same deficits we humans have and an extra load of external stressors.
I was with my husband while he was a registrar studying for a Fellowship. years of study and stress added to an already highly strung guy.
We share a daughter and its funny as quite often if she is unwell, he usually relies on my assessment of her over his own.
It isnt easy being married to this profession during the study years, however it does ease once graduated to Specialist.
Take away the job and they are still just Human with a higher divorce etc rate for the population.:)

By: Ross MacLeod

Ross MacLeod — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:53:13 +0000

I relate a Shoney’s tale. As a geologist I was assigned to a NE Alabama project in the early 80s, living for a month in Carrolton GA.

One morning we guys discussed, and decided to have breakfast at Western Village rather than Shoney’s, the two being the only realistic, equivalent breakfast choices available.

I stood in the breakfast buffet line at Western Village behind a corpulent couple, in excess of 300 lbs each, talking about the repast. The wife piled her plate with eggs, bacon, pancakes, sausages, toast and butter, saying “this looks Good.”

Her similarly piled spouse remarked “…sure beats that s**t over t’ Shoney’s!”

By: Kingsley

Kingsley — Sat, 23 May 2009 06:28:34 +0000

I’m a psychiatry registrar in Nigeria. I found out right in medical school that the expectations I had about the doctor is simply a mirage and I had been struggling with the job ever since. While I love the fact that I help in solving people’s health problem, I found it difficult to accept that I have to bend over in giving my time and then studying endlessly only to get what looks like money just enough to get peanuts. A couple of my friends have found their way to Europe and U.S to make life better but found out that apart from the relative difference due to the devalued currency of our home country, the medical profession does not hold much comparatively with other professions in their countries of abode.
Now the motivation is so low, one wonders how long one has to be struggling to make ends meet and yet spend so much on professional examinations that one does not even have enough time and motivation to study for given the return on investment that one will get. Are we in a rat race? Are we an endangered specie?

By: Missmolly

Missmolly — Fri, 15 May 2009 14:44:56 +0000

I’m a paeds reg studying for exams; my partner’s a primary school performing arts teacher. Last week he seized a textbook from my hands and hurled it across the room. Ok, so there were pictures of, well, scrotal oedema and phimosis and straddle injuries (or “that creepy mutant kiddie porn you like” as he calls it). And I suppose we were in bed. I had to promise not to study in bed ever, ever, ever again. Damnit, this relationship with a non-medical person takes a lot of negotiation!